Throughout a girl's life, she is always going to have a bond with her future husband whether she admits it or not. As a young girl, we fantasize over our Prince Charming (aka our hopeful hubby). As teenagers and up until our wedding day, we are in pursuit of our future husband. After the big day, it's "'til death do us part"...in most cases.
Well when it comes to all things future husband, I am such a typical girl. Obviously. I've always dreamed about the qualities that I hope my future husband possesses- heir to a nice cattle ranch, height, sanity, an unfathomable love for me and more especially Christ! But seriously. He has to want to own a farm with me. He must want children and will allow me to name them. And above all, he has to undeniably put Christ first above everything. I know without a shadow of a doubt he will be all these things and more. And I will wait on God's perfect time to send me the man of my dreams.
Right around middle school, while all the other girls were getting their first boyfriends, I decided that if I couldn't see myself marrying a boy I wasn't going to date the boy. At the time, I figured I'd just be saving myself some heartbreak. As I grew older, I was even more thankful for that decision. Keeping true to my decision has not always been easy with worldly temptations and a pressure that girls are under to always have a boyfriend through their high school years. However, it did allow me to practice faithfulness to my future husband from an early age. Over the years and as I've grown closer to Christ, He has better prepared me for the man of my dreams without any distractions.
Now don't get me wrong. It's not like I've never talked to a boy or participated in innocent flirting. I've even allowed myself to get a little more emotionally involved than I'd like to admit. But Christ and His promise of a wonderful husband always stayed in the fore front of my mind. As a matter of fact, as I'm quickly approaching my twenties, I can proclaim that I have never been in a serious relationship. That's not an easy fete in this day and age.
While I've definitely been lonely at times and very lonely at other times, I still stand firm on the decision I made so many years ago. Journaling to my future husband helps me stay close to him. When something big happens in my life or I'm feeling a little blue, I'll write to him- sometimes a few sentences, maybe a few pages. I'll share my prayers for him in my journal. I'll tell him about my worries, my fears, my doubts, my hopes, and my dreams.
All of you ladies out there, I encourage you to keep your future husband in mind as you move forward in your dating world. Pray for him! Work on preparing and bettering yourself. Use this season of singleness to cling to Christ and strengthen, or even develop, your relationship with God. Even you gentlemen who may be reading this, how important is your future wife to you already? I know that I need my future husband to have a great deal of beautiful love in his heart. (And he will.) Develop the love in your heart now for your future wife, even if you haven't met her yet. God will prepare so much in each of us and I have so much faith that God will give us exactly what we NEED in our future spouse. You don't have to journal to her for you to practice faithfulness to her. Pray for her as well! Prepare your self! Become the gentleman and leader to The Lord that she will need!
God has such a great plan and wants us to share our love in ten fold. Read the book of Corinthians while praying for your future spouse and it will surely put the right love in your heart.
God bless!
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